Quiet your mind so you can hear yourself again

The Still Me Programme

You can know your values. You can write down your goals. But if the Saboteurs are still running in the background, none of it sticks.

This is why PQ is the foundation of Still Me.

What Is Positive Intelligence?

A scientifically validated mental fitness framework.

Developed by Shirzad Chamine — Stanford lecturer and New York Times bestselling author — PQ rests on a simple insight: most of us are run by inner "Saboteur" voices that masquerade as helpful but keep us trapped in guilt, anxiety and self-erasure.

Most mothers in this situation already know they need to reclaim their lives. They have been told in therapy. They have heard it in Al-Anon.

And yet they cannot seem to do it. - because every time they try, an inner voice stops them. These are not character flaws. They are neural patterns - deeply grooved, automatic responses that feel like common sense but are the primary mechanism of self-erasure.

Until you name and interrupt them, no amount of knowing you should reclaim yourself will translate into actually doing it.

PQ does not tell you to think more positively. It gives you the neuroscience for why self-reclamation feels impossible.

Still Me is not about fixing your child, managing their recovery or becoming a better carer. It is about you - your life, your identity, your future.

When you stop disappearing some-thing shifts: you become a. steadier, more grounded presence for your child.

But that is a byproduct, not the goal. The goal is you.

The Judge — constant self-criticism, dressed up as high standards. The Judge says: "who are you to think about yourself right now?"

The Victim — a pull toward guilt, sacrifice and self-erasure. The Victim says: "what is the point - everything falls apart anyway"

The Hyper-Vigiliant — constant worry & stress about what will go wrong . The Hypervigilant says: " you cannot relax, something will go wrong"

The Pleaser — saying yes to things that deserve a no, never getting anything back. The Pleaser says: "If I need less, maybe they will be okay"

"For mothers living alongside addiction,
the Saboteurs are especially loud.
This is not weakness. This is what Saboteurs do."

The ShifT

Seven Weeks. Two Parallel Tracks. One Purpose.
Find Your Way Back to Yourself.

Identify the Saboteur patterns causing you to abandon yourself — guilt, hyper-vigilance, people-pleasing.

Strengthen your inner Sage — the calmer part of you that can hold love for your child without dissolving into their struggle.

Build new neural pathways through daily 10-minute practice, until grounded responses become your new normal.

HOW IT UNFOLDS

The shape of seven weeks

Your starting point

BEFORE WEEK 1

A one-time, 17-minute welcome orientation introduces you to the app and the Reclaim Container.

WEEKS 1–7

Practice & circle

Self-paced modules, a weekly live group session, and 10 minutes of daily PQ Reps — flexible, and built around your day.

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BY WEEK 7

Reclaimed ground

A steadier inner operating system, a clearer sense of identity and purpose, and a community that carries on beyond the programme.

Anne Marie

Anne Marie Mc Fadyen is a qualified workplace mediator, executive & team coach, counsellor and circle keeper.

She is a also a certified Positive Intelligence Coach and......... a mother.

For the past five years, she has walked alongside her adult daughter through significant mental health and addiction challenges.

She knows what it means to love someone fiercely while watching them struggle — the sleepless nights, the fractured hope, the slow, quiet erosion of her own identity. And being in the recovery rooms she listened to the advice - focus on yourself, detach with love, dont let your childs addiction define you. She believed it and wanted it. But didn't know how to do it.

And so alongside her committment to Al Anon and therapy she has created a space dedicated entirely to that work. A space that does not just name self reclamation as a destination, but actually maps the route and invites other mothers to support each other on the journey.

She knows what it means to begin finding her way back — to her goals, her purpose, the woman she was before this became her whole world. For her that journey is ongoing; it isn't a story with a tidy ending or absoulte outcomes.

Still Me is not about having all the answers. It is about needing to 'still be you' whilst living with the same questions.

YOUR RECLAIM COACH